March 23rd, 2009
Dear Friends,
This is just a reminder to call in this Tuesday, March 24th for a f*ree teleseminar where Ellen Valentine will interview me about the following:
==> F*ree Teleseminar “Your S*ecret W*eapon: Psychological Coaching”
==> Date:Tuesday 3/24/09
==> Time:6pm PST/7pm MST/8pm CST/9pm EST
==> Phone #: 1-712-421-7981
==> Entry Code: 6458#
Especially if YOU
+++ have been wondering how you might gain more control over your emotions
+++ have wished you could break a bad habit or start a good habit
+++ are dealing with a career transition & you just can’t seem to get past the bad feelings surrounding it
+++ are blocking yourself from getting from where you are to where you want to be–and you want to be there yesterday…
….then you owe it to yourself to join Ellen Valentine, ND as she interviews YOURS TRULY for a POWER-HOUR of valuable tele-training focused on helping you through great information!
Here’s what we plan to discuss on the call:
=EMOTIONS: One of the most common reasons for unpleasant emotions
=DEPRESSION: The WORST mistakes that people make in an effort to feel better
=ANGER: Why you shouldn’t use a punching bag when you’re angry
=STRESS: How whining can make your problems worse instead of better
=FEAR: How avoidance can make you phobic
Time-permitting, we’ll also talk about:
=An easy way to start on the path to feeling better now
=How combining Psychology and Coaching has super-fueled Pam’s personal success–leading her to become a best-selling author & reach other life-goals
=Why combining these fields could give you the secret weapon you need to survive and thrive in YOUR BUSINESS and YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
=The time, money, and efficiency savings offered through phone & e-mail options
=Answers to YOUR E-mailed QUESTIONS
Submit YOUR QUESTIONS to me instantly by replying to this e-mail right away, so that your question will have priority!
Looking forward to speaking with you VERY SOON! Remember to call in at the right time for your time zone!
Dr. Pam
Once again….
Here are the Call Details:
==> F*ree Teleseminar “Your S*ecret W*eapon: Psychological Coaching”
==> Date:Tuesday 3/24/09
==> Time:6pm PST/7pm MST/8pm CST/9pm EST
==> Phone #: 1-712-421-7981
==> Entry Code: 6458#
PRINT THIS OUT NOW WHILE YOU’RE THINKING ABOUT IT!!!!
To be notified in the future of all teleseminars, sign up for Insourcing at http://www.myinsourcing.com It is FREE!
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March 23rd, 2009
Dear Friends,
This is just a reminder to call in this Tuesday, March 24th for a f*ree teleseminar where Ellen Valentine will interview me about the following:
==> F*ree Teleseminar “Your S*ecret W*eapon: Psychological Coaching”
==> Date:Tuesday 3/24/09
==> Time:6pm PST/7pm MST/8pm CST/9pm EST
==> Phone #: 1-712-421-7981
==> Entry Code: 6458#
Especially if YOU
+++ have been wondering how you might gain more control over your emotions
+++ have wished you could break a bad habit or start a good habit
+++ are dealing with a career transition & you just can’t seem to get past the bad feelings surrounding it
+++ are blocking yourself from getting from where you are to where you want to be–and you want to be there yesterday…
….then you owe it to yourself to join Ellen Valentine, ND as she interviews YOURS TRULY for a POWER-HOUR of valuable tele-training focused on helping you through great information!
Here’s what we plan to discuss on the call:
=EMOTIONS: One of the most common reasons for unpleasant emotions
=DEPRESSION: The WORST mistakes that people make in an effort to feel better
=ANGER: Why you shouldn’t use a punching bag when you’re angry
=STRESS: How whining can make your problems worse instead of better
=FEAR: How avoidance can make you phobic
Time-permitting, we’ll also talk about:
=An easy way to start on the path to feeling better now
=How combining Psychology and Coaching has super-fueled Pam’s personal success–leading her to become a best-selling author & reach other life-goals
=Why combining these fields could give you the secret weapon you need to survive and thrive in YOUR BUSINESS and YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
=The time, money, and efficiency savings offered through phone & e-mail options
=Answers to YOUR E-mailed QUESTIONS
Submit YOUR QUESTIONS to me instantly by replying to this e-mail right away, so that your question will have priority!
Looking forward to speaking with you VERY SOON! Remember to call in at the right time for your time zone!
Dr. Pam
Once again….
Here are the Call Details:
==> F*ree Teleseminar “Your S*ecret W*eapon: Psychological Coaching”
==> Date:Tuesday 3/24/09
==> Time:6pm PST/7pm MST/8pm CST/9pm EST
==> Phone #: 1-712-421-7981
==> Entry Code: 6458#
PRINT THIS OUT NOW WHILE YOU’RE THINKING ABOUT IT!!!!
To be notified in the future of all teleseminars, sign up for Insourcing at http://www.myinsourcing.com It is FREE!
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March 12th, 2009
Yes, I know. I am aware that my title sounds so silly…I actually thought of it as I was typing & it must be a bumper sticker from my past! But, it never hurts to have a sense of humor–anger is so SERIOUS & it can harm you/others.
Here is a question that recently caught my attention:
alot of times, i can not control my mind. when i see something or feel someone did me wrong, i keep thinking ways of trashing that certain someone…..i have so much anger….i keep thinking bad things to make that person suffer…the situations are so miminal but i turned it into a big issue….
The question you ask is important–I think that first of all you’re doing great identifying that you’re angry, which is the first step–to know what you feel & that you don’t like to feel it.
The next step is to understand it more. Usually anger is associated with beliefs such as “someone else should have acted differently than they did”; when you are considering acting upon your anger to harm someone, you might be thinking “people who don’t act the way I want them to must be punished.”
When you stop and look at the beliefs that are leading to your anger, you might realize that they are not serving you over the long run. You might see that there isn’t really any proof that others must act as you want them to. You might begin to recognize that while it is normal to want people to act how we want them to act, it isn’t usually necessary for them to do things exactly as you wish! In addition, you can be okay even when others inconvenience you, insult you, or act badly.
So, take some slow, deep breaths & then write down what you’re thinking that is causing you to feel angry. Then look at what you wrote and decide whether there might be a more helpful, less anger-causing way of viewing the situation.
You can also take some time to shift your mind through positive activity. For example, watch a comedy, go on a brisk walk, sing a song, or distract yourself for a while. Sometimes as time passes and you get involved in your life, you will see that your unhealthy beliefs seem less true.
Good luck with your work on this.
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March 11th, 2009
I read a post on Craig’s list and tried to respond to it. Unfortunately, it was “too new” to reply to. So, I wil post my reply here in the hopes that those who need it will receive it somehow.
The question was: I was recently diagnosied with Borderline Personality Disorder and don’t know what to do. It seems so hopeless. Advice?
My reply: I’m a therapist who sometimes works with people who have this condition. It is good to have an accurate diagnosis so the person treating you can help you properly. I know it isn’t fun being diagnosed–it seems reductionistic at some level–but if the diagnosis is used to help you, it is usually for the best to know it & learn more about it.
Here are a few things to consider learning more about that relate to this diagnosis. I’m not saying all are right for you, just that I’ve found these common themes are really really helpful for people with Borderline Personality Disorder.
1. Learn about appropriate communication. How can you communicate in a way that is respectful of yourself and the other person? Where’s the middle ground?
2. Learn about the typical fears of people with this disorder, such as the fear of abandonment. Learn how to tolerate being alone & ambiguity. Learn to give yourself the certainty that no one else can give you.
3. Learn self-love and self-reliance. Do something loving for yourself EVERY DAY!
4. Learn what sets you off and what helps soothe you–learn healthy ways of responding to emotional pain.
5. Learn how to make good decisions and to follow through on your decisions by creating a plan and taking baby steps. Reinforce yourself daily for your baby steps.
6. Learn to set limits with yourself and others.
7. Learn about all or nothing thinking and how to think in shades of gray. The middle ground is an important thing to master.
These are a few of the things that could bring you great relief. In addition, if you learn to turn inward and tune into your inner guidance, you may find the answers to reduce your depression, anxiety and relationship problems. When you are in a positive mood, begin to ask yourself, “How can I love myself more?” Ask, “Show me how I can be more respectful of others.” Turn toward your inner guidance when your emotional state is healthy, and write down your answers. Keep a journal to learn from your own answers. Study what you learn and process these answers with your therapist.
Best of luck in your soul-searching. If anything above resonates with you, you should share the ideas with your therapist.
Sending you white light,
Dr. Pam Garcy
http://www.myinnerguide.com”>http://www.myinnerguide.com>
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February 20th, 2009
Did you know that there is a price to be paid when we block our inner guidance? Do you understand how this even develops & why it is that people continue to squelch their inner truth?
When we experience something emotionally painful AND when we then block ourselves from coping directly with our experience, symptoms tend to develop. What kind of symptoms? They can be just about anything. Some are turned outward such as moodiness, abuse, or agressive communication. Others are turned inward such as substance use, self-harming behaviors or compulsive behaviors. There are many other types of symptoms as well.
These symptoms are known in behavioral terms as “avoidance responses”–the pathological responses that develop as a result of the relief we feel when we avoid coping with something unpleasant. The relief is negatively reinforcing–it reinforces us by removing an unpleasant feeling that arises in our awareness.*
Unfortunately, as we continue to avoid our reality, we are also avoiding the opportunity to grow through effective coping. We essentially stunt our own growth & stay stuck. When we are really being honest with ourselves, we can hear the still small voice within saying, “There is a problem. Please deal with it.” Avoidance responses stifle the inner guidance. They are louder, somehow, and we can “hide out” in them. But, if we want to be healthy and grow, it is time to move past this.
Germophobia is sometimes an instance of this–not always, but sometimes. I want to share an article about this topic. I am quoted at the end of the article. Here is the link for it. Hope it is helpful–and remember to take time to hear your inner guide. Often, this is the part of you that is wise and is there to help you to make the healthier choices that you’d need to move past your pain. If you’re having trouble tuning into your inner guidance, I’d recommend you read my book, the #1 National Bestseller, The Power of Inner Guidance: Seven Steps to Tune in and Turn On.
Anyway, here is the link to the article on msnbc.com: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/29166897/page/2/
Have a glorious day–and remember that Life Is Incredible!
Pam Garcy, PhD
Have you signed up for the April 4th workshop in Plano? Go to http://www.lifeisincredible.com
*People tend to confuse negative reinforcement with punishment–but the two are entirely different. Reinforcement, by definition, INCREASES a behavior. Negative reinforcement is any reinforcement that results by REMOVING an unpleasant stimulus. Punishment, on the other hand, is designed to stop a behavior by introducing an aversive consequence or removing a pleasureable consequence–very different. You can usually tell if someone knows what they’re talking about in this area by whether they confuse these terms.
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February 18th, 2009
Dear Friends & Universe,
I’m calling for your help. I want to get the word out that we can cope through these tough times & tell people how to start doing so. I’m sad when I hear about lives going to waste due to the panic of the times. It isn’t right, but I know it is beyond my control. However, there is something in my control to do–to try and get my message out there more & to ask you for help. We can pull together now and use what we know to help each other through the tough times.
Here’s what I’m asking for–help me get onto The View, Oprah, Dr. Phil or any of the national shows–if you know anyone who knows anyone who might be open to what I’m doing. This would help me to get the message of healing out there. I’m not out to profit on my book sales. I will share my profits with charity–I mean that seriously–I’ll just deduct my travel/hotel & the rest of my profits go straight to charity. I want to help people. That’s all I’m saying. But I need your help because I’m just starting on this different road.
I spent tons of money with a PR person who was wonderful & got me started on the road. She believes in my mission to help people to tune into their inner guidance & to make wise decisions about the messages they are getting. But, she hasn’t gotten me onto a national show. So, as her time draws to an end, I think about the others out there who might feel the pull to help–that is your inner guidance talking & I’m asking you to listen to it for the sake of anyone who hasn’t heard my message but needs to hear it.
Let’s get the world to think in a healthier fashion together. Six Degrees of Separation supposedly separate us from the people who we need to be in touch with in order to serve. I want to serve and I need your help to do it.
Anyway, if you’re in a position to help, here are the clips from the interview in Houston (3 minutes), Good Morning Texas (5 minutes), and Dallas Morning News.
Live tv interview from last week in Houston:
Good Morning Texas Video from yesterday:
Dallas Morning News Article from yesterday:
I figure I’ve used up about 8 minutes of my 15 minutes of lifetime fame. So, if any of you know anyone who knows anyone who knows Oprah’s director of production or like someone from The View, feel free to pass my clip along!
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February 17th, 2009
I wanted to re-invite you to a F*ree Teleseminar that I’m hosting called Cycling Wellness into Your Success! (Secret: There’s going to be a special offer that we make tonight for those who want to attend Life Is Incredible–so definitely make it!)
I will interview our friend Ellen Valentine, Nutritionist and Life-Coach.
Time permitting, we plan to cover:
==> Why Physical Wellness is Crucial for Your Success
==> How People can Use Nutrition for Increased Energy and Stamina
==> Quick and easy things you can start to do to improve your health
==> Signs your body is giving you that you’d better take steps
==> Crucial things you must know about supplements and wasting money
==> How fear and other negative emotions can be impacted by wellness
Save the date & time:
Tuesday 2/17/09, 6pm PST/7pm MST/8pm CST/9pm EST
Pam’s Conference Line: 1-712-421-7981
Participant Passcode: 6458#
Please SEND YOUR QUESTIONS TO ME by replying to this e-mail. Please print this out now while you’re thinking about it, tape it near your phone & write the event in your calendar!
Speak with you on Tuesday night, 2/17/09!
Pam Garcy, PhD and Ellen Valentine, ND
Remember: Life Is Incredible!
Sign up at http://www.lifeisincredible.com
PS–We aren’t charging for the teleseminar; depending upon your phone plan, your phone company may charge you a long distance charge.
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February 9th, 2009
Hi again!
Part of being able to tune in and turn onto your inner guidance involves learning how to think rationally. This is one of the many reasons I love to teach people about REBT and CBT.
There are so many examples of behavioral habits that can be fed by irrational thinking, that it just makes sense to educate yourself about how to think more rationally.
I was very pleased to be interviewed by SELF magazine about the topic of germophobia. The article is in the current edition of Self magazine. I’m quoted at the very end of it–let me know what you think–go here to read it:
Especially if you’re stuck in a bad habit, it is important to find the way back to your heart. Figure out what is going on–what might be causing you to engage in this repetitive, destructive behavior? I sometimes see people who are depressed–they’re unfulfilled in their current life–and they don’t know what to do to get out of it. Sometimes I see people who are suffering from anxiety. Many don’t know how to speak up for themselves, how to set limits, how to create a calmer lifestyle or even just how to say no. These little problems lead to bigger problems when you don’t take care of them.
If you can take the time to learn to relax and calm yourself, then you can also take the time to tune in and ask yourself the questions that might lead to YOUR answers. Sometimes these answers might be to get specialized help or to get more information–especially if you’re finding yourself in a hole and you don’t know how to get out of it.
This is precisely why I practice psychotherapy & work to help people who are depressed, anxious, angry or otherwise unfulfilled in life. It is why I wrote The Power of Inner Guidance. It is why I keep plugging away at getting the message out there–be true to yourself–if you don’t know how, learn.
In the spirit of warmth & support of YOU following your inner guidance to create an incredible life,
Dr. Pam
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February 7th, 2009
Hi, friends.
As you know, I have a preoccupation with folks becoming self-aware and self-directed. I deeply hope to encourage you to tune into yourself and to honor your inner wisdom, which I sometimes refer to as inner guidance. I believe that this is key to creating the incredible life (check out http://www.lifeisincredible.com ).
One of the practices that will help you to follow your inner wisdom is the practice of mindfulness. I came across an article by Padraig O’Mrain of the Irish Times. Not that I’m looking at the Irish Times every day, but I generally try to keep abreast of any articles on REBT & his came up.
Padraig graciously agreed that I could share his mindfulness tips with you, which I found to be so simply put and user friendly that I was thrilled to pass them along.
Please enjoy these tips about mindfulness.
(You can also check out Padraig’s article in the Irish Times & his blog.
www.padraigomorain.blogspot.com
www.justlikeaman.blogspot.com
The Happy Knack of Knowing Where You’re At by PADRAIG O’MORAIN
http://www.irishtimes.com/newspaper/health/2009/0203/1232923383125.html )
Mindfulness Method
Mindfulness involves taking your attention away from the past and future and away from your imagination - and instead becoming aware of what is going on right now. You can do this as you go about your daily life. Notice with your senses: what you are seeing and hearing, that you are breathing, standing, walking or sitting or lying down, the feel of the air against your skin as you move along.
Your mind will keep drifting out of the present so you need to keep bringing it back. It is bringing your mind back to the present that makes up the practice of mindfulness. Never criticise your mind for drifting away: just bring it back kindly and gently.
Mindfulness has been used for thousands of years in the Buddhist tradition to improve people’s experience of life. It lowers anxiety and stress, provides an antidote to brooding (which can lead to, or maintain, depression). It also helps you to avoid endlessly repeating distressing or unhelpful thoughts, images and mental scenes. Exercises like those below have been used for centuries to help people practice mindfulness as they go about their daily life. The first two need only take a minute or so but will help you if you repeat them a few times a day.
Awareness
From time to time, notice your breathing.
Notice your posture.
Notice the points of contact between your body and the chair, floor, ground.
Notice your clothes touching your body.
Notice sounds in the room; sounds outside the room; the furthest away sound you can hear.
Every time you drift into thinking, just return to noticing these sensations.
Mindfulness Cues
This involves using habitual behaviours to remind you to practice mindfulness. Choose one or two and then decide that when performing them you will maintain awareness of what you are doing, rather than daydreaming or getting caught up in fears or anxieties: Using the telephone ~ Going up or down stairs or steps ~ Using a computer mouse or keyboard ~ Tidying ~ Washing up ~ Showering.
Awareness of Breathing
As you go through your day, notice your breathing from time to time. All you need to do is notice your breathing: you don’t have to breathe in any special way. You could notice one or more of the following: Is your breathing different now to what it was a few minutes ago? Is it calmer or more laboured? Are you breathing with your chest or your tummy (abdominal breathing is usually more relaxing)? As you breathe, can you feel movement in your diaphragm (between your ribs and your abdomen)? Can you feel the air entering and leaving your nostrils?
Let me know what else you guys would like to learn more about. Feel free to submit your inner guidance questions or questions about creating an incredible life!
Dr. Pam
Have you signed up for Life Is Incredible yet? Time to take action! Go to http://www.lifeisincredible.com now!
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February 6th, 2009
Just wanted to share a couple of things that I’m celebrating.
I am extremely honored because Drs. Bill Knaus, Jon Carlson, and Elliot Cohen have invited me to serve as an honorary member of the Editorial Board for the Albert Ellis Tribute Book Series. I’m very excited because the book series will honor the memory of Albert Ellis and highlight his contributions to the field.
I just came across Argosy University of Dallas’s Newsletter. Thank you to the newsletter for all of the support offered in this lovely article: http://auconnection.net/Dallas/newsletters/20081006.pdf
Finally, I had a talk with Kathleen Green at the Dallas Morning News today & she is rightly concerned about how the economic recession is affecting folks emotionally. She plans to write an article about it & we discussed the importance of take time out to relax & ask ourselves the important questions of life. I think that people take for granted how important it can be to take a few minutes out to relax, but it can really have a rejuvinating effect on both the body & mind. Hopefully, Kathleen will get to tell people about The Power of Inner Guidance, and allow it touch more lives. I also asked her to consider mentioning the role of training, including the Life Is Incredible training event that Ellen & I are doing in Plano (see http://www.lifeisincredible.com ).
Anyway, I plan to interview Dr. Knaus for this blog sometime soon regarding how we overcome procrastination. If we receive inner guidance & then ignore it & fail to act upon our good decisions, we will end up disempowering ourselves. Action leads to confidence and power. So, I am excited to share what I learn with you in one of my upcoming blogs.
Remember to take some time to tune in, gain clarity and take action on one of your important goals today!
sincerely,
Dr. Pam
Check out http://www.lifeisincredible.com
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