Friday, May 29th, 2009
What is the goal of putting all of this stuff together? Why do I keep harping on REBT principles and turning inward for guidance? Trusting yourself? Relying on yourself? Knowing that your answers are often already inside of you–if you’ll be honest with YOU……what’s the reason?
It is for you to have a better quality, and perhaps even quantity, of life. We only know of one definite time that we’re here–there may be more, but we don’t know for a fact–so, given that, it makes sense to approach our life as a one-shot proposition.
What improves quality of life, according to Albert Ellis, founder of REBT? Things like striving for our long term enjoyment, practicing being an individual without approval-needing, being aware of yourself and your feelings, being aware of how you create your feelings, taking responsibility for your behaviors, accepting that there is uncertainty & that sometimes things are just not known to us, building our own frustration tolerance and flexibility, accepting that we have a biology & we are animals too, committing to a goal, being creative, being interested in others, being ethical, accepting ourselves/others/life conditions, taking risks, and trying new things. It takes work. But it is good to know what we’re working for.
Pick any of the things in the paragraph above & just start working at it. I’ve found that doing the things above actually frees me up energetically so much so that it is MUCH easier to march to the beat of my own funny drummer.