Dear Friends,

This is just a reminder to call in this Tuesday, March 24th for a f*ree teleseminar where Ellen Valentine will interview me about the following:

==> F*ree Teleseminar “Your S*ecret W*eapon:  Psychological Coaching”
==> Date:Tuesday 3/24/09
==> Time:6pm PST/7pm MST/8pm CST/9pm EST
==> Phone #: 1-712-421-7981
==> Entry Code: 6458#

Especially if YOU
+++ have been wondering how you might gain more control over your emotions
+++ have wished you could break a bad habit or start a good habit
+++ are dealing with a career transition & you just can’t seem to get past the bad feelings surrounding it 
+++ are blocking yourself from getting from where you are to where you want to be–and you want to be there yesterday…

….then you owe it to yourself to join Ellen Valentine, ND as she interviews YOURS TRULY for a POWER-HOUR of valuable tele-training focused on helping you through great information!

Here’s what we plan to discuss on the call:

=EMOTIONS:  One of the most common reasons for unpleasant emotions
=DEPRESSION:  The WORST mistakes that people make in an effort to feel better
=ANGER:  Why you shouldn’t use a punching bag when you’re angry
=STRESS:  How whining can make your problems worse instead of better
=FEAR:  How avoidance can make you phobic

Time-permitting, we’ll also talk about:

=An easy way to start on the path to feeling better now
=How combining Psychology and Coaching has super-fueled Pam’s personal success–leading her to become a best-selling author & reach other life-goals
=Why combining these fields could give you the secret weapon you need to survive and thrive in YOUR BUSINESS and YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
=The time, money, and efficiency savings offered through phone & e-mail options
=Answers to YOUR E-mailed QUESTIONS

Submit YOUR QUESTIONS to me instantly by replying to this e-mail right away, so that your question will have priority!

Looking forward to speaking with you VERY SOON!  Remember to call in at the right time for your time zone! 

Dr. Pam

Once again….
Here are the Call Details:

==> F*ree Teleseminar “Your S*ecret W*eapon:  Psychological Coaching”
==> Date:Tuesday 3/24/09
==> Time:6pm PST/7pm MST/8pm CST/9pm EST
==> Phone #: 1-712-421-7981
==> Entry Code: 6458#

PRINT THIS OUT NOW WHILE YOU’RE THINKING ABOUT IT!!!!

 To be notified in the future of all teleseminars, sign up for Insourcing at http://www.myinsourcing.com    It is FREE!

Dear Friends,

This is just a reminder to call in this Tuesday, March 24th for a f*ree teleseminar where Ellen Valentine will interview me about the following:

==> F*ree Teleseminar “Your S*ecret W*eapon:  Psychological Coaching”
==> Date:Tuesday 3/24/09
==> Time:6pm PST/7pm MST/8pm CST/9pm EST
==> Phone #: 1-712-421-7981
==> Entry Code: 6458#

Especially if YOU
+++ have been wondering how you might gain more control over your emotions
+++ have wished you could break a bad habit or start a good habit
+++ are dealing with a career transition & you just can’t seem to get past the bad feelings surrounding it 
+++ are blocking yourself from getting from where you are to where you want to be–and you want to be there yesterday…

….then you owe it to yourself to join Ellen Valentine, ND as she interviews YOURS TRULY for a POWER-HOUR of valuable tele-training focused on helping you through great information!

Here’s what we plan to discuss on the call:

=EMOTIONS:  One of the most common reasons for unpleasant emotions
=DEPRESSION:  The WORST mistakes that people make in an effort to feel better
=ANGER:  Why you shouldn’t use a punching bag when you’re angry
=STRESS:  How whining can make your problems worse instead of better
=FEAR:  How avoidance can make you phobic

Time-permitting, we’ll also talk about:

=An easy way to start on the path to feeling better now
=How combining Psychology and Coaching has super-fueled Pam’s personal success–leading her to become a best-selling author & reach other life-goals
=Why combining these fields could give you the secret weapon you need to survive and thrive in YOUR BUSINESS and YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
=The time, money, and efficiency savings offered through phone & e-mail options
=Answers to YOUR E-mailed QUESTIONS

Submit YOUR QUESTIONS to me instantly by replying to this e-mail right away, so that your question will have priority!

Looking forward to speaking with you VERY SOON!  Remember to call in at the right time for your time zone! 

Dr. Pam

Once again….
Here are the Call Details:

==> F*ree Teleseminar “Your S*ecret W*eapon:  Psychological Coaching”
==> Date:Tuesday 3/24/09
==> Time:6pm PST/7pm MST/8pm CST/9pm EST
==> Phone #: 1-712-421-7981
==> Entry Code: 6458#

PRINT THIS OUT NOW WHILE YOU’RE THINKING ABOUT IT!!!!

 To be notified in the future of all teleseminars, sign up for Insourcing at http://www.myinsourcing.com    It is FREE!

Yes, I know.  I am aware that my title sounds so silly…I actually thought of it as I was typing & it must be a bumper sticker from my past!  But, it never hurts to have a sense of humor–anger is so SERIOUS & it can harm you/others.

Here is a question that recently caught my attention:

alot of times, i can not control my mind. when i see something or feel someone did me wrong, i keep thinking ways of trashing that certain someone…..i have so much anger….i keep thinking bad things to make that person suffer…the situations are so miminal but i turned it into a big issue….

The question you ask is important–I think that first of all you’re doing great identifying that you’re angry, which is the first step–to know what you feel & that you don’t like to feel it.

The next step is to understand it more.  Usually anger is associated with beliefs such as “someone else should have acted differently than they did”; when you are considering acting upon your anger to harm someone, you might be thinking “people who don’t act the way I want them to must be punished.”

When you stop and look at the beliefs that are leading to your anger, you might realize that they are not serving you over the long run.  You might see that there isn’t really any proof that others must act as you want them to.  You might begin to recognize that while it is normal to want people to act how we want them to act, it isn’t usually necessary for them to do things exactly as you wish!  In addition, you can be okay even when others inconvenience you, insult you, or act badly.

So, take some slow, deep breaths & then write down what you’re thinking that is causing you to feel angry.  Then look at what you wrote and decide whether there might be a more helpful, less anger-causing way of viewing the situation.

You can also take some time to shift your mind through positive activity.  For example, watch a comedy, go on a brisk walk, sing a song, or distract yourself for a while.  Sometimes as time passes and you get involved in your life, you will see that your unhealthy beliefs seem less true.

Good luck with your work on this.

I read a post on Craig’s list and tried to respond to it.  Unfortunately, it was “too new” to reply to.  So, I wil post my reply here in the hopes that those who need it will receive it somehow.

The question was:  I was recently diagnosied with Borderline Personality Disorder and don’t know what to do.  It seems so hopeless.  Advice?

My reply:  I’m a therapist who sometimes works with people who have this condition.  It is good to have an accurate diagnosis so the person treating you can help you properly.  I know it isn’t fun being diagnosed–it seems reductionistic at some level–but if the diagnosis is used to help you, it is usually for the best to know it & learn more about it.

Here are a few things to consider learning more about that relate to this diagnosis. I’m not saying all are right for you, just that I’ve found these common themes are really really helpful for people with Borderline Personality Disorder.

1.  Learn about appropriate communication.  How can you communicate in a way that is respectful of yourself and the other person?  Where’s the middle ground?
2.  Learn about the typical fears of people with this disorder, such as the fear of abandonment.  Learn how to tolerate being alone & ambiguity.  Learn to give yourself the certainty that no one else can give you.
3.  Learn self-love and self-reliance.  Do something loving for yourself EVERY DAY!
4.  Learn what sets you off and what helps soothe you–learn healthy ways of responding to emotional pain.
5.  Learn how to make good decisions and to follow through on your decisions by creating a plan and taking baby steps.  Reinforce yourself daily for your baby steps.
6.  Learn to set limits with yourself and others.
7.  Learn about all or nothing thinking and how to think in shades of gray.  The middle ground is an important thing to master. 
These are a few of the things that could bring you great relief.  In addition, if you learn to turn inward and tune into your inner guidance, you may find the answers to reduce your depression, anxiety and relationship problems.  When you are in a positive mood, begin to ask yourself, “How can I love myself more?”  Ask, “Show me how I can be more respectful of others.”  Turn toward your inner guidance when your emotional state is healthy, and write down your answers.  Keep a journal to learn from your own answers.  Study what you learn and process these answers with your therapist.

Best of luck in your soul-searching.  If anything above resonates with you, you should share the ideas with your therapist.

Sending you white light,
Dr. Pam Garcy

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