Taking a holiday from the holiday
There are some times when it might become important to take a holiday from the holidays.
These include: after a trauma, after a painful transition, following severe emotional distress, after job loss, and after the loss of a loved one.
Some might say push-on, push-on. Indeed for some, this is a good approach. However, if your experience is recent, you might really have the urge to take time to heal and regroup.
As I’ve often said to people, honor yourself. Pay attention to your inclinations and allow yourself to be true to what is right for you. You don’t HAVE TO celebrate when you need to heal.
This is why I want to suggest that some of you take a holiday from the holidays. Take the time to feel your feelings, get support and heal. You don’t have to make all the parties or buy everyone a gift when you’re not up to it. Those who truly love you will support your decision to take care of YOU!
Recently, I suggested these tips to someone who asked me how to survive the loss of a loved one over the holidays:
1. Allow yourself to grieve the loss of your loved one. This takes priority over any holiday.
2. Let yourself off the hook. You might not be in the mood to celebrate. This is normal. Honor yourself by allowing yourself to take a break from all of the parties.
3. Seek support from those who understand you. Turn to others who love you and want you to do what is best for you, especially those who can give you a hug and a caring ear.
Hope you are all doing well & have a safe and restful December.
Pam Garcy, PhD
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